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TCA Peel Process and Results

DISCLAIMER: I AM NOT A PROFESSIONAL, I am just simply recording a risk I took and my experience.

Why? Well, I had a 25% TCA peel kit from years ago that I used to treat a scar left behind by my dermatitis. I thought I’d try it to remove some minor acne scars, using it like a spot treatment, and so I did.

How? (The process): The package contains a pre-peel, that can be substituted with wiping your face with a alcohol pad before applying the peel, the peel and the neutralizing solution that can be substituted by a mixture of baking soda and water. I first soaked a cotton pad with the pre- peel solution and applied directly to the areas I planned to apply the peel. It burned a little but this process is necessary in making sure the area you are applying the peel is clean, free of dirt and oils so the peel can penetrate deeper and more evenly. I then spritz some of the TCA 25 peel solution on a different cotton pad and applied it to those areas as well. It immediately started to burn, I went to my window, to neutralize the burn with cold air from outside, I still wasn’t able to bare it so I neutralized my face and washed it with cool water. I later felt as though, it didn’t work because of the short time I left it on, and did it again, this time I was able to bear it and left it on for a total of 5 minutes. I neutralized it and then washed my face with cool water. Make sure nothing gets in your eye, at all, or you will have a huge problem. The next day, my skin looked a bit darkened, shiny and wrinkled, I knew it was preparing to peel. 2 days later, I noticed peeling. It did not peel in sheets, the peel was sort of scattered and I read that it is detrimental to assist in the peeling, making it hard to go to classes, work, etc. It was suggested I wore sunscreen and stayed out the sun, I had no sunscreen and I had places to go, so I wore a hat and tried to avoid the sun as much as I could, but I definitely was exposed to a good amount and I was okay, though I don’t suggest you do it.

What (The results):
Was it worth it?
It was not worth it, I looked crazy for over a week, the results weren’t noticeable at all and it revealed the skin that was there before.
Would I do it again?
Yes, but this time I would go to a professional and get a stronger, deeper peel.
Any scarring?
No more scarring that I had prior.
Did I get burned?
Not that I can see as yet, but my skin is very resistant so I highly doubt it.
Would I suggest for you to do it?
It’s up to you, I already have pretty decent skin and the results were barely noticeable.

And yes, I heard stronger peels aren’t ideal for people of color but I took the risk and was okay.

BEFORE, DURING AND AFTER PICTURES COMING SOON!!!!

“I’d Never Ask My Guy About Another Woman, Unless I Was Prepared To Leave Him.”

So, I recently saw a video with the Braxton sisters discussing cheating and advice their mother, Evelyn Braxton, gave them in regards to dealing with those situations. “Never ask a guy about another woman, unless you were prepared to leave him, or you becime the side chick.” And, I couldn’t agree more.

Why ask your man about another woman, if you are not prepared to let him go. Once you make him aware that you’re aware that he’s being unfaithful, arguing with him about it but still staying with him, lets him know that you are OK with it and that if you’re not, you’re not going to do anything about it. This promotes the behavior. I’m not saying to be oblivious to the fact that your man is being unfaithful at all, I’m saying that, if you are going to let him know that you know he’s cheating, to preserve your self respect and how he views you, you have to leave.

Why even bring anything up, if you plan on staying? What’s the purpose? You hope by bringing it up, he’ll change. Firstly, I think if a man cheats on one woman, once, he’ll continue to cheat on that woman. So, not only do I think you are SADLY mistaken, you have to leave for him to even begin consider not doing it again.

If you stay, you’re letting him know that, regardless of what he does, you’ll always be around and you never want to give a dude the satisfaction of knowing that. Because that’s when he starts treating youuuu, like the sidechick.

10 Questions To JOB RECRUITERS, From a Millennial

  1. Applying on a job board: Why the freakity freak do I have to get an email from an employer stating that I still need to apply on the site, after applying on indeed? What’s the point of allowing your job posting to have “easy apply” if I still have to apply on the website, after easily applying? I mean, what else do you need from me, other from my resume?
  2. Filling out shit already on the resume I uploaded: Why when I apply for a job and they ask me to upload my resume, they still ask me information THAT’S ON MY FREAKING RESUME? Why are you making me go through all this?
  3. References: Why do I need someone to vouch that I’m a good worker? How about you hire me and see for yourself. If I’m coming from Mcdonalds, applying for a office job, I promise you I will not be the same employee I was there. I promise you I act according to the job I’m given. My behavior changes based on if I actually LIKE THE JOB or not. And no, my previous employers wont like me, because it’s either they fired me (for not doing the right shit) or they’re salty asf that I don’t want to work at their shitty establishment anymore. Additionally, I do not befriend my managers. I couldn’t give a damn about them. I don’t batter my eyes to get special privileges, I don’t befriend them, I don’t take their bullshit; I do my job and go home. And no, I don’t befriend my professors either, I do my work and go the freak home. I don’t have friends, I’m not friendly for fun. I can be friendly to get this job though, I can be friendly with customers to get their money though. I CAN BE ANYBODY YOU WANT ME TO BE. What people think of me doesn’t determine my worth because I adjust based on my environment. Additionally, people change. That last employer might think I was an asshole, but it’s been 2 years, maybe I went to a therapist and expelled my demons and became filled with flowers and sunshine and shit, ya never know.
  4. Calls: When you call me about a job I applied for, first things first, tell me your name and the company you work for. Because, more than likely, I’ve applied to 10 other jobs and I don’t know who you are. Don’t assume, I’ve only applied to your company, who do you think you are? Be freaking practical! I don’t know who you are and I don’t know why your company is significant, it’s just that the job you’re offering appeals to my interests and/or skills.
  5. Email me! Don’t call people out of the blue with no heads up. I don’t know your number, you could be anybody. I could be busy, I could be angry, sad, hurt or hungry. Email me and schedule an appropriate time, it’s common courtesy, bro, like come on.
  6. DON’T EXPECT ME TO HAVE EXPERIENCE! I’m applying for an entry level position, I’m fresh out of college, what kind of experience you expect me to have outside of my freaking degree? MY DEGREE IS MY EXPERIENCE. Don’t bullshit me! It’s a damn entry level position, ENTRYYYY being the operative word, this is going to be my first time doing a job like this. Stop making shit so hard, give me a shot!
  7. Don’t ask me why I want your specific job: I wan’t a job cause I need income to freaking survive. YESSSSS, I’d rather live on a beach somewhere and eat, and sun bathe all day but I can’t do that, I need money. NOOOOOO, I don’t dream of being in a place where people belittle me and tell me what to do all the freaking time. I don’t like working for people. NOBODY DOES!
  8. I’m nervous as freak: Without this job, I will be living on the streets. SO I’m nervous asf, don’t judge me based solely on my interview. Get a sense of my personality, take the stress away. Don’t use 10 people to interview ONE person, you are doing wayyyyy too much. I understand you want to see how your candidate does in pressure but there’s pressure and then there’s an interrogation, relax a bit.
  9. Qualifications: Chill on the qualifications! 3.5 GPA and above. REALLY?!?!? You know how hard it is to balance 6, 400 level classes and a job. I’m lucky to be in the 3’s at all.
  10. Internships: You’re an UPAID internship but you don’t provide housing? What the bullshit? Guess I’m gonna fly to work from my cardboard box. You’re not paying me, THE LEAST you can do is provide a few benefits to working for you.

10 reasons why you should always get white nail polish.

1. It looks good with every skin tone. For dark skin, it serves as a great contrast.

2. It’s professional and is a very neutral color to work in.

3. It looks good and like it’s professionally done, whether your nails are long or short.

4. It goes with absolutely everything.

5. It brings attention to your fingers and toes, giving the illusion that they are groomed and well taken care of.

6. You can add designs and things to it, still keeping the simple look.

7. It looks very effortless and natural.

8. People associate white with innocence, so if you wear white, you’d appear more appreciable, feminine and soft.

9. You’re almost instantly more careful to avoid stains, which can force you to pace yourself and just take pride in yourself, overall.

10. You can wear it over and over again without ever getting tired of it or without feeling like the color is getting old. It never does.

Top 10 Relationship DEAL BREAKERS!

1. A guy who disrespects his mom and/or sister in the worst possible scenario. She could’ve stole his car and trashed it.  How you speak to her in that scenario tells me how you’ll treat me if I ever did something you didn’t like.

2. A man who’s rude to the waiter, or strangers or the less fortunate. MAJOR DUB!

3. A guy who is overly insecure/overly obnoxious.

4. He called/calls me a bitch. ***CALLED… you only get one chance to call me that and that’s it!

5. A guy who only has me in his corner. That’s a lot of pressure and I got my own problems.

6. He lacks ambition. I can’t stand a lazy guy or one who is content with being mediocre. You should always be working towards a goal. When you achieve one, it’s time to work towards another. I don’t like complacency.

7. A guy who is allergic to everything. Listen, I’m a foodie. I’d love to cook for the guy that I’m with, so if you’re allergic/don’t like all of my favorites, we simply will not work out.

8. An intensely ‘traditional’ guy. This ties in with the domestic emotional and physical abuse. Because that stems from patriarchal ideals. Not happening. No, I won’t be a house wife, and no, you cannot treat me any way you want.

9. A guy who does not want kids. I might not be the most affectionate person ever but I want kids, ok!

10. He smokes cigarettes or dies drugs. NOOOOO BABYYYYYYY! Not happening. Their is no such thing as a social crack addict. Miss me with the bullshit!

NEOSPORIN allergic reaction

I previously wrote a post about using a Neosporin to soften my lips, after many users vouched for it. What a BIG MISTAKE?

About 3 days after using Neosporin on my lips daily, I noticed some bumps appearing on  my lips, nothing too major.

I didn’t link Neosporin to the rash immediately so I continued to use it. Eventually, I stopped with the idea that maybe I misused the product and that it wasn’t suitable to be used on lips at all. So I stopped.

Maybe 2-3 weeks ago, I went to get my eyebrows done. My skin is semi-sensitive, it rarely ever break out but I get rashes so very easily, never as severe as this one but my skin reacts to fabric, environmental change, just everything. These reactions though, are usually very minor and could only be seen by me or felt to the touch. Anyways, I’ve had a slight breakout to the wax used \, so the Chinese lady suggested I used Neosporin. She pushed it on me and was like “use, use!” And so I did. I plasted it everywhere, around my eyebrows and even on my forehead, repeatedly.

Why did I do that?

3 days after I used Neosporin on my eyebrows, the break out took effect.

img_1695You can’t see it too good in this photo but it was horrible, very visible and pink. I’m dark asf, so if a rash is visibly pink on my forehead, something is wrong.

 

Moral of the story, understand that everyone’s skin isn’t yours. Take advice with a grain of salt. Be careful and LISTEN TO YOUR SKIN.

I don’t know exactly what ingredient in the Neosporin, I’m allergic to. But I’d never use this product or any product with similar active ingredients, ever again.

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Before and After

My skin cleared up with use of Calamine lotion and another rash cream my friend gave me. But I did acquire a few acne marks due to the incident, which sucks but I’m not complaining,

Unpopular Opinion: Why “Transgenderism” isn’t considered a mental disorder but dissociative personality disorder is.

“For as long as I can remember, I always felt like a boy. I know I have a vagina but I just never felt like a girl.

So, you were born with a vagina, but you FEEL that you’re a boy.

So, you were born with a penis, but you FEEL like a girl.

People who have dissociative personality disorders are proven to genuinely be unaware of their different personalities. For example,  if a person has 5 different personalities, there’s usually 1 personality that knows about all the other 4 but their main personality (the one that existed before the other personalities emerged, or the primary personality) is usually unaware of the other 4. They just know that they escape time and that sometimes people bring up events they’ve seen them at, that they don’t recall ever going to, so they know something is wrong but they don’t know what it is. But the therapist does. The therapist is able to bring out all the different people that exist within a dissociative personality disorder patient’s head and talk to them individually. So they know this is real, they are licensed to know exactly what is going on. With a transgender, you really don’t know how they feel, because it is a feeling, it’s personal to them, as a therapist, you can’t draw out those feelings like you can  mental disorders. SO how do we know it’s real?

And again, I’m not saying it’s not cause I think it’s very possible. Just like I believe having multiple personalities is very possible. But who are we to say that one thing (transgender) that we can’t necessarily prove has more ground over something (dissociative disorder) that we can. Who are we to determine what is recognized as a third gender and what is a mental disorder. I feel that we either come to the conclusion that both deserve their places in society or that they are both mental disorders. We can’t differentiate them in what we consider normal and abnormal. And if we chose to do that, we must favor the side that we can actually prove.

SO why don’t we acknowledge these different personalities as different people, why don’t they draw up different birth certificates when we realize they exist? Why don’t they do on separate interviews and why don’t we see them as completely different people?

But we acknowledge transgender as a third gender and we’ve integrated it into our society, why are other mental disorders considered mental illnesses then? Isn’t that a bit unfair?

If you feel like you are different from what you are, then that’s your business.

But if you’re going to add a new gender to society just to account for a portion of the population’s FEELINGS, other mental disorders should be accounted for as well and not considered mental illnesses.

P. S. If you have any opinions contrary to the opinion stated above, refer to the definition of mental disorder below, or google it.

Mental Disorder: Disorders that affect your mood, thinking and behavior